Get up, my dear friend, fair and beautiful lover—come to me! Look around you: Winter is over; the winter rains are over, gone! Spring flowers are in blossom all over. The whole world’s a choir—and singing! Spring warblers are filling the forest with sweet arpeggios. Lilacs are exuberantly purple and perfumed, and cherry trees fragrant with blossoms. Oh, get up, dear friend, my fair and beautiful lover—come to me! Come, my shy and modest dove— leave your seclusion, come out in the open. Let me see your face, let me hear your voice. For your voice is soothing and your face is ravishing.
Song of Solomon 2:16-17
I have found it very different dating today then when I dated before I became a Christian. In the past, I would not care about things like sex, drinking, and so forth. Yet now I do. I don't want to just jump in bed with anyone, especially on the first date. And I don't want to be on a date where all they do is drink up the bar.
I do look for women with similar values and I ask if they are Christian or not. I get, I believe but I don't go to church or anything. I get it. I mean the church has not always been there for the LGBT community. So why go? Yet, I want to meet someone that will go with me. Is that too much to ask?
Today, I meet these women and they seem to be more about when can we have sex then building a relationship. If that is all it is about, then I am not for them. I am also not looking for a uhaul date. I want to build a relationship. I want a foundation.
I keep wondering where my person is. You know, that one that lives a Christian life, wants to build a relationship before jumping into bed, that doesn't find it necessary to get drunk every chance they get, and is stable in their life. Some one that I can walk beside and support as they do me.
Dating in a world full of the opposite though is tough. You have to get out there and just meet people and have the time they want to meet at some bar. Why? Cause the only place that is truly open to lesbians having a date is the lesbian bar cause there is not a lesbian coffee house. Or besides online, the only place to meet others is at the bar cause they are not at the churches.
That is the sad thing, you can't meet a good Christian woman at church because even if they are there, you don't know it. I would love to walk into my church one day and meet the lady of my dreams. Maybe one day, but today is not the day.
For now, it is online sites with the hope that I can meet someone that is not too out there in the world. One of the things though that does help, before I reach out to anyone, I pray about it. I ask God to be involved in the interaction. If it is to be a good one, then let it be. I ask that He also let me be a testament to Him and be firm in my beliefs and not falter just cause she is cute.
That is hard. There are times that I meet someone and they are very beautiful, there is much chemistry and we hit it off. And oh how I would love to do more then just kiss them. For goodness sake I am still alive! I choose not to because I choose to wait till I am in a committed relationship contracted under God. So I have a choice to make, follow my heart and brain or follow my glands. That is when prayer comes in, I pray that God keeps me on track.
I have learned that it is easier to date when I bring God into the equation and let Him take the lead. Those that are not meant to be there for me, seem to disappear. Those that have some purpose in my life even if not to date, stay in it. But no matter what I must have God first!